Side note: We know it’s sometimes hard to even know WHAT you want to ask! We’ve all been there so just start by asking about the topics you do know how to talk about and use the language that’s most comfortable to YOU. For example, if you’ve got questions about your body, you could start with something like “My boobs are two different sizes, is that okay?” Or maybe you overheard other people talking about drugs and want more information on how they impact your body. In that case, you could ask something like “Is smoking a joint different than smoking a cigarette? How do they affect your body?” We know it’s sometimes awkward to ask a question for yourself, so you could also feel free to ask it for a “friend”, for example, “My friend asked me if you can get sick from going down on someone, and I wasn’t sure what to tell her… is that possible?” All in all, your provider should be open to any language you choose to use, even slang terms. However, just like you have to ask them to define words, your health care providers might also need to you also define words that they don’t understand. And likely, your provider will use different vocabulary (like breasts instead of boobs) to answer your questions, because it is what feels more comfortable to them! This process will allow you to develop a vocabulary you can both work with, which means more of your questions will be answered accurately!
More important than anything, just use the words and language you’re most comfortable with to start, and your provider can help get you the information you need!